Perfect Penpals

In this day and age of technology, everything is instantaneous. Messages can be sent to the other side of the world, received, read and replied to, in less time than it takes to boil a kettle.

Whilst this is great when you want to  know information immediately, or need an answer to a time-sensitive question, it does mean that we have forgotten how to actually communicate.

Letter writing has become a thing of the past. Phone calls have declined, due to texting. Language skills have been lost when using acronyms, text speak and emoticons.


Now don’t get me wrong, I am not bashing technology. I am one of the worst when it comes to being permanently attached to my phone, tablet or PC.

Social media is a massive part of my life, as is texting and blogging. I love the fact that I can post things, and have someone in another country read it, or comment.

This obviously does have its downsides. Unwanted advances or the ever present “dick pics” are a problem that most bloggers or social media users are used to. These are neither wanted nor needed. But they exist and as a user of all kinds of social media, one I am all too familiar with.


The internet truly is an amazing place, where I can find information, answers, shop, learn, listen to music or even read my favourite books. I certainly don’t think I could live without it.

Ironically it is through this media that I have re-learnt the lost art of letter writing. I am in several groups on facebook, and have mentioned the 40s and 50s most marvellous group a few times.

Several months ago I put my name down for a pen-pal. I haven’t had a proper pen-pal since those days of senior school where you were give a french friend to converse with.


I have to admit, that wasn’t an overly successful experiment, and I have never written to a stranger since.

I was intrigued by the thought of chatting with someone interested in similar things to myself, and relearning how to write a proper letter. Before I knew it, I had 3 pen-pals, all based in the UK. I also started writing to my lovely sister in law who is living in South Korea at the moment.

We have now been writing for several months, getting letters every couple of weeks. And it is glorious!


My three lovely ladies, Beverly, Denise and Esther are a delight. We chat about our lives, families and vintage loves. We talk about the adventures we have had, meetings that we have attended and general chit chat.

Beverly and I even went on to share a hotel room at the Most Marvellous Winter Ball last November – View my adventure here

It really has been a lovely experience. I have always been mad about pretty stationery, especially fountain pens. I’ve always used them, but less so in recent years. However, I now have different paper sets for each of my pen-pals, a beautiful deep blue fountain pen and even coloured inks.


I love getting ready to write my letters. Sat at a proper table or my desk, a fresh cup of Earl Grey, and some light music in the background. Getting the right paper, and putting my words down. Working out what to relate in my letters. It is not a quick process at all.

Writing my letters give me great pleasure, and this is only superceded by the receiving of a letter from one of my pals. Seeing a pretty envelope on the doormat is always a highlight of my day, and I love reading what these ladies have to say.

This past two weeks I find myself with another two pen-pals. Another in the UK, and my first abroad, in North Dakota USA.


I’ve already had my first letter from my new UK pen-pal, and just yesterday a letter arrived from Jen in the USA!

It has become something I love to do, and introduced me to a whole new set of “friends” I look forward to the day that we can actually meet up for a cup of tea and a slice of cake, although that might be a bit tricky for my new friend in North Dakota!

Do you write letters? How do you feel about having a pen-pal? I would love to hear your thoughts.


Till next time,

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  • kitty kaos

    I have a few penpals 3 in the states but I would love to write to people from around the world x

  • Kelly Fletcher

    Letter writing is such a dying art xx I’m definitely going to look into maybe getting myself a penpal

  • Natasha Mairs

    I used to have loads of pen-pals when i was a child, but has we got into the teens, they all slowly dwindled off. Really miss writing to them and often wonder what they are doing now

  • I used to have an Italian penpal whilst at school through a scheme they put together and I used to love sending and receiving thoughtful letters, postcards and gifts. I really miss it! I’d love to do the same again, as there is still something really special about putting pen to paper and communicating with someone halfway across the world. There’s some beautiful stationary here too, I’m a sucker for pretty stationary 🙂 xx

  • Rhian Westbury

    I used to love having a penpal when I was at school and did think about this a while ago as to whether people still did this. I love physically writing and don’t do it enough so I might have to see if I can find myself a penpal. x

  • Is it sad that I would struggle to write a letter now without typing it up on the laptop

  • Jessica Dearnley

    Lovely post. I miss having a penpal so much. I used to have one from Italy but we lost contact.

  • Never had a penpal to be honest I am better on computers .x

  • I used to write letters all the time when I was younger and it saddens me that I no longer do it.

  • Cassandra Mayers

    I had a penpal when i was 16 and we would write all the time. I loved reading her letters. Now we are just facebook friends and still talk all these years later but not as much, it is a shame. Reading this really makes me miss writing to people.

  • I miss the days of letter writing. Think I will write a letter soon.

  • Laura

    Aw this is so lovely. Its a great way to make friends and I love that it isn’t all online or through social media. Pen and paper really is dying out so to keep it alive through having a penpal is lovely. I don’t think I’d ever have one as I wouldnt have the time to keep up with it at the moment and would feel guilty not replying but I think its such a lovely, exciting idea xxx

  • Elizabeth

    Letter writing is certainly becoming a lost art. Getting hand written post is rare these days! How awesome to participate in something like this.

  • I love this! I was penpalling with a blogger, now we are friends IRL 🙂

  • Hungry_Healthy_Happy

    I love this! I really miss writing letters and I find that whenever I have to write something with a pen, I really struggle, because I spend so much time typing.

  • Leanne Dolan

    Funnily enough the other day I saw a really pretty writing set and I made a comment how it was a shame I had no one to write to! Everything is digital these days!

  • I used to be so good at letter writing and did it really often. It has probably been 20 years since I did. It’s true though. There is nothing like a handwritten letter.

  • Ooh this is something I’ve been meaning to do for ages! My Auntie started writing to her PenPal in NZ over 25 years ago. They finally met last year when they came over to the UK & we had a big family party. Was awesome! Can I ask where you find your contacts from please?

  • Hannah Malanga

    There is nothing like actually writing stuff down, I am always scribbling on paper over using my phone. I miss writing an actual letter too, you don’t even really see postcards any more because people just post on social media instead

  • I miss actually writing, so much more personal than a text or email. Its such a shame that is dying out